I would have settled for friendship however that also seems not to be. Share your review! Felt I needed the closure to my past. Thank you for your response. Ive had a friendship/relationship with a priest Ive known for 40+years. there are occasions when I cant help but talk to him, but I feel now that its really awkward.. he hasnt really told me anything, I just felt it.. then he changed I do not want him to express his feelings for me, I am afraid I would too.. Im worried that youll get hurt in the process whilst for the priest its just a game. Yes I had a desire to get to know him more, in a personal level. Go and speak with him. He became mean and rude to me. If you are not an elderly or unattractive woman and if you happen to be single, my experience has been this flags you for attention, both positive from the priest and negative from the parishioners. he still show me the love? As another of my priest friends says I love the church. Thanks for speaking so clearly about what others suffer in silence and maybe dont have the courage to share with others. The difficulty and pain of a relationshiip with a priest will not bring you closer to the Lord. It hurts me a lot when I dont hear from him (he lives in another country, but we have met in person , we have cammed many times in the past, but not any more) and it makes me so happy when I hear from him. Sign up for our Premium service. It is slowly sinking in that its pointless. These signs include things like: Constantly trying to be physically closer to you when around you Making consistent eye contact with you Orienting his feet in your Once, there was walk around the city for stations of the cross. He never replies my email but reads them. Lets pray for them. He finds you attractive at an emotional level and feels as though there is a deep connection between the both of you. Emotional attraction is a different, deeper type of attraction, she explains, because it not only draws you to someone, but keeps you feeling connected in a lasting, meaningful way. Join. If they have their legs uncrossed, it can be a strong indication that you have a shot. Advice please ! Dear Jack, No sex. Just bear in mind that if someones shy or feeling flustered, they might struggle with eye contact, even if they are attracted to you. He would like to have special treatment yet he never commits himself! I would prefer to let the readers to their comments. The priest would try to find some refuge in other priests friends. My heart was pounding so hard I found it hard to read the reading I started to feel very sick inside! And I just felt like it is wrong to give him signals. I said well its very sad I know I love you but I know here is my calling why do I feel so happy here in my heart when doing my duty here and feeling God when doing his work for him. I hope she is in peace. Yet the love he felt in his heart cannot be buried forever. But he is also human. We have email contact but its cold and distant. Emotional attraction is key to a deep, strong love. It is not a weakness! Its all nonsense, of course. Now sin or no sin one cannot simply hide love. Most priests would tend to run away when they realize the effects on their own lives if they would just think of leaving the comfort zone of their parish! We dont wish to see you suffering at the hands of an unscrupulous priest! RC Spirituality is a service of Regnum Christi that creates life changing Catholic formation materials in many media formats. This makes me sad people like this should leave the priesthood I have seen some rude priests and treat there people like shit no love in there priesthood yet the guys who did leave for a special person always loved there parish and did everything they could to please the community they had being a real Shepard of their flock. I have to move onits so difficult! I actually find it quite insulting to be treated as if Im a threat but on reflection, men are usually weaker then women when it comes to celibacy so nowadays I see it as their problem, not mine. Reading comments here makes me think of a situation I was in. Please check your inbox and your spam folder too. This had been going on for some time. thanks. You are free to decide: to love this woman or else to continue celibate priesthood. I love him. He is love. Not until him! May God Bless you! Im considering even writing a letter to the Pope with multiple valid reasons on why a catholic priest should be allowed to marry. Ill be praying for you. The vocation to the priesthood is one of hurt and love. I really need to talk. Ive sent you a private email message. We have the same opinions of many things. One day, when I met him I told him that witout him his old parish is in trouble. I think its because its the unspoken and the fact they have to deny any feelings that they may have. The no flirting might be a problem when youre faced with a woman you are attracted to. This is what me and my Priest did, and we keep things like that I am happy married now with 2 kids. Hes eager for your opinions. Thanks . I guess I dont understand why you refer to your desire to be close (in ANY way) as weak. Its been over 2 years for me and although Ive left my church, I called my priest yesterday. Please check your spam folder. Being Celibate is not having sexual relationship I am not having sex with her. but also know that you will desire another woman during your life as a priest! God bless you richly and comfort your sad spirit at this time.. oh this is the worst ending.so sad.. i am so sorry to read this. He is absorbed in his vocation and seems that he would make a wonderful priest..but will endure the challenges. Im very much confused. Is it fair to make her get mad about you and then revert to the rules of the book and tell her, sorry we cant marry? May God Bless you! I dont know what Ill do now this priest, whose friendship comes and goes, has left another community. But I love Jesus more. Entrust your prayer intentions to our network of monasteries. He did not want children to interfere with his ministry. That is part of your responsibility. For priests who fell in love and decided to stand by that love, have significant others, build a family and hope for the Catholic Church to allow priests to marry. If need be, you might find reasons for avoiding him, either at the parish or if he visits your home. So WHY are they in charge and thought to be closer to my Lord just because of some archaic, anachronistic rule????? I started to get feelings for her but never said and I want to follow my calling to priesthood she admit to me and I told her I cant leave she was mad and she said she would never talk with me again but she did as she missed me so much. I also feel quite repulsed by his behaviour and have no feelings or respect for him. He prefers to put his heart in a refrigerator than let it speak to him and surprise him! The priest does not hold any secrets of his loving relationship but proudly displays it in his community. Hi.. you mentioned theyre TRAINED not to listen to their emotions.. my experience on this is very recent.. he tries his best to avoid me.. I need to talk to somebody, please, this is killing mebut Im not ready to share it with the whole world. We kept seeing each other and well she told me that she cant keep this inside her heart anymore and she said that the love between us is wrong and she told me she does not want to see me Any more. If you have a dilemma, question, or need some general advice for your life, email Zoe. Who isnt drawn to a person like that? I know it sounds crazy but I know it hurts her more as she wants me to leave she is not catholic but Baptist church. I think prayer and MUCH thought will provide your answer BUT PLEASE you cannot build any future relationships with women without keeping them distant and without intimacy of any kind! Thanks for sharing your mature reflection. Even if they are not biting their lip, the unspoken chemistry will force them to keep touching their lips, and this is one of the signs of deep attraction and mutual chemistry. Is it possible to speak with any mature person in your country? You are lucky to that this is in the early stages! Maybe you dont understand me I am not sure kissing and hugging is something special between two people yeah we have do that maybe you might think that is wrong but we are close it just sharing something that just happens. Want to see fewer ads on Aleteia? Discover through self reflection and prayer what is right. He was listening to my with a big attention. One has to avoid friendship at all costs..this is the general way of a priest behaving in society. I have seen this post before but I have often thought do you still talk with him? They move things out of the way. ; my greatest gift of love but for my children, has gone to the Lord. I cannot begin to understand a call to the priesthood and I have so much respect for this. We chatted about my problems and he just listened and offered his support in prayer. Sent you a private mail. Like all of you, I am a woman who has fallen in love with a priest. Is it this girl who made you love her, or is it something deep down which is trying to tell you something? I dont even know what to do. How do you meet you said he was from a different country where was he from? I know he hasnt spoken about me to anyone and I havent spoken to anyone about him either. While not flirting, per se, someone might be into you if they take on a relaxed and calm demeanor whenever you're around, spiritual counselor Davida Rappaport tells Bustle. One of the biggest signs your woman likes another guy is if she appears distant, as though you never shared an intimate bond with her in the first place. Now, BEFORE you take your vows, is the time to decide. This, to me, is the same as men, in proposing to and marrying the woman they love, have decided on the life they want to live, with whom and how. This lady in time would NOT just take you from your vocation but she would also want to take you from the Catholic faith entirely. When you are attracted to someone, you want them to know. She said that I was so wrong and messed up in the head for not leaving and dating her. I can help the feelings we have I have been nothing but open with her asked to find someone else. It is easy to think you will get over her and as time passes, it will get easier. Hes only JUST been ordained! Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. 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