Or you can buy a toddler bed. Sometimes you cant have it all. I love to have nice clean things and now, I find myself spending most of my days in the rooms where animals arent allowed. Your fighting in front of dogs is not bad parenting because you are not parents to the dogs; you are owners of them. Suppose the girl owns a dog, and that canine tends to interrupt the relationship as a result of feeling jealousy or any other psychological issue. Dogs are dogs and children are children! My youngest cat was rescued and abandoned he almost a year old but follows me around and still tries to nurse on my finger. If your partner is not over their ex, you may feel their lack of commitment in your relationship. Let me be clear he picked out the dog, it was his idea, and he was very emotional about it. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. He claimed to have loved them but his version of a pet and mine are very different and now ive fallen pregnant hes turned into a control freak and if my dogs are within an inch of him he gets annoyed. I have had many conversations with him to try to play with her and pay more attention to her more than just feeding her and letting her outside. No sleeping in our bed, no crate, no begging at table, no barking for no reason, and listen to all basic commands. Now we are in love and he wants me to dump dogs at a shelter and move away with him. I truly love this girl but Im on my way out! Most arguments over pets come from the primary owner making excuses for them. The toys and bed Ive replaced with my own money. Even then, its not too excited about anything. The exact same goes to you my dear :) I can understand why any partner would rather turn to animal companionship with a tongue so vile and sharp. , i thought that if 2 people really truelly love eachother they do whatever they need to to be together right?..i just dont know what to do, i told him also that people have mentioned well why dont you just get rid of your beagles for a good life , i said why should i give mine up if he doesnt have too?i dont think so! My partner loves dogs as do I, so neither of us mind their presence. Alisa, When I get off work it seems like he doesnt care if I am home or not. He is treating the puppy like a baby and trying to get me interested but Im not, besides I have my own dog that I never brought with because I knew the conditions were not favourable and I know we hardly at home, so it was best to leave her with my family and their pets that she grew up with. Charlie, the next morning she said she was sorry and that evening we talked it out (lovingly and with a gentle heart) and she fully understands how i truly feel and how i received what she did that night. Trust me. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. One of them is very dominant and a bully to the other one, most of the time, which can be very frustrating. I was angry the vet didnt do a better job alleviating her post op pain. Because of course, she is such a poor baby. She happened not to shed, more like a Chia pet with lots of grooming. Dog owners who pretend their mutts children should be banned from dog ownership they pretend no one else harmed yet are likely responsibility of injuries/deaths and I truly believe passive aggressives with strangely inflated misguided egos where they are center. How did an animal lover end up with an animal hater? We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). Pet lovers are really just nasty softcore beastiality enthusiasts. So i recently started staying at my fiances house as well be married in about a week and i have been very clear about the dog sleeping with us. And can you respect him if he gives into your bullying? I know he made a commitment to the dog, but I guess I thought I was the more important one and when you are giving your dogs 4 different pills and a few injections of stuff to keep him healthy, happy and strong but he is 16 years old, its almost as if he never wants his dog to die. An animal however lives by loyalty. It almost feels like Im entering a relationship where I have to accept this dog as a step child! Why on earth would she even allow an argument to start over this. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. Hire a dog trainer or behaviorist: These people are mastered about dog behaviors, and they can handle pretty much any breed of canine. Even said we should sleep separate! Hang in there. The dog is a poodle mix so it has very curly hair. The second issue is our puppy. Its not like getting rid of a toy. So what am I to do? Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by GoodTherapy.org. One weekend, my parents asked us to take care of their little puppy (1 year old small dog). Just last year my Siberian Husky Anya was involved in an attempted aduction by my ex boyfriend and he lured her with the exact same example you provided. It is amazing how blind people are to this, but really it needs to be an instant deal-breaker as pets dont get a say, and they depend on their people to look out for them. My dog IS a one-person-dog. She has other annoying behaviors, such as sneaking in to eat cat food. But I do not require the companionship my finance seems to really seek in her life from an animal, her family had inside dogs growing up. I am an animal lover of all kinds. This dog is horrible and is ruining my life. Not disciplining an animal does not mean love. If youre the pet lover, ask your partner specifically what the issue is and what would fix it. You sant a dog for you and could honestly care less about a future partner or the dog itself. Well the plot has thickened. I already have a 11month old shepard mix male. We cant go anywhere do anything that is not about dog. Which Im not saying anyone should want that, but no offense at some point you have to grow up and realize everything will die. There is None of the bad Chihuahua behaviors.Chihuahuas are the most loyal and humorous companions. My soon to be husband (in 5 months) has two adorable dogs. Anyway, I walked downstairs to give him a phone call and find him on his knees next to her on the dog bed. My boyfriend refused to let me go over the issue of fur. It violates their commitment to their dog. I find myself not wanting to cone home. Husband finds this cute. 7. Its not her, its him. Take care. Anyhow if you have to rehome the dog, dont just look for a shelter. And when my dog nips the other dog to warn it off from the kitchen (my dog knows they are not allowed to scavenge for food in the kitchen), guess who gets punished? I need help. Unless hes just being an ass, then maybe you should reconsider staying with your partner. YES! Get away from these animals as fast as possible. That it was her pet that I had no desire to have or care for and felt it was her responsibility to be taking care of her pet that SHE wants. 2 months later my husband decides he wants another cat. Thats over and Id be out of there in a heartbeat! Im not talking to him or sleeping with him. i have severe allergies and most importantly, i do not want them constantly running in the house and jumping on furniture. He goes back to the other house he would love them. I work from home, so while she went to work and the kids went to school, who got stuck with the whiny poop machine me. Before we got married we had arguments over our dogs how hers belongs inside since he is small and mine outside cuz there big. We only have one vehicle which is mine but we just moved and are trying to get caught up money wise (he makes more) so I said I would stay home until we can get another vehicle. The kids, 3. I have bought a pretend, fur real, cat to sit in my lap, its not the same. We got in a huge fight and finally made a break through. Not to mention, it creates all sorts of issues for the dog. Leading with stern confidence (not aggression) is the absolute best thing you can do for a dog. And should i have to worry about our future childrens safety? How is this going to work with 2 dogs?! He gets upset and says his babies do no wrong. Oh yes and car crazy will jump through windows to get in a car to make it stink, cover it in hair and rub its arse on a seat that I am meant to sit on. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. Never cleaned and they sleep together, and he had insisted that doggy was in my 7000 bed ruining my Hermes bedding (bf said my problem). i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! A retired couple who offered everything I did, with the bonus of not having my husband for a daddy. I have mild allergies so she irritates my nose when in close proximity not to mention I think a dog in bed is so unsanitary. Because of that, your husband may think the do is far better off in your house free of little ones. It just feels that my feelings are brushed off the table and the dogs are priority number 1, while Im his wife. Hire a dog trainer: If your husband/boyfriend is about to get rid of the dog, first you need to chat with him and get another month of time to correct the behavior. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a discussion about the compromises you will both make. Getting the cat was the best thing I did for my mental health during six years here on and off jobs. I really need to do something about this because Im getting to the point where Im willing to give him away but I know this is something my boyfriend refuses to do. I have had a sprained ankle for the past almost 2 weeks from trying to get her to come back in before work. We now have an 11 month old and I am afraid he will be the next victim. He wrote me a text saying that he wants a divorce. I lived with being blamed for things I didnt do, snide remarks, one upmanship contests. I dont think a dog should snarl or growl at anyone, much less one of his masters. Why? I have a Boston terrier her name is Bailey I have had her for about 5 years.. I contend that if the cat has to go, then I will have to go with the cat because I would not be able to live with a clear conscience after such an enormous compromise for something that is not even there. My husband knows better than to bring home another dog. One time she pooped on my daughters bed near her pillow. Her mother and sister were both telling me it was my responsibility to take care of the dog as I was the only one there with it. The dog acts out, becomes even more needy, which only breeds guilt in their owner, so they turn their focus away from their relationship to focus solely on the dog again and boom, the issues start! In that same discussion, he said he would like to sleep with them 1 night a week. All the lights were off and my dog greeted me as usual, I ran in the room grabbed what I needed and I heard the front door open. im sorry youre going thru this.my situation is different..but i can totally relate to trying to train and work with a dog and having no one back you up or virtually undo anything you try to do with the dog to make progress..in your case it seems as if your ex is jealous of the bond you have with the puppy.the puppy is young it needs to have training i think yours doing a good thing for him and his dog. They must be let outside, fed, played with and walked. If your dog has separation anxiety that leads to peeing and pooping all over the house, chewing things, and being destructive, perhaps this can be the reason why does your husband/boyfriend needs to rehome the dog. Save yourself while you still can. Even more frustrating, this 15 year old pitbull acts no older than 4 or 5 years of age. But he would rub the dogs back abd love on her back before he evens thinks of me. I cook for my dog, he opens a can. I started to resent her when I was outside with her waiting ten minutes for her to finally decide to go when I had so much to do for my 12 hour work day. I was utterly devastated. After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. Maybe your husband or children have allergies to dogs. Since they are part poodle, they are extremely hyper and neurotic and have the energy of 20 toddlers. His argument is that he suffered for nearly 10 years with a pet, its his turn now. Or perhaps animals have been the only creatures that have ever treated us better than our spouses or how our fellow humans. act. It also feels that things are getting better between my husband and I. They ate grown A%% men. They are not. Perhaps in many cases it is going to be easier to blame the pet than for him just to come right out and say that it is really you that is bugging him. The dog lovers will think that I am insane to hate dogs but yes, hate is the best word to use. He had a cloth sofa which was in the basement. You are for sure the secondary female in his life and its unacceptable. But yes, it was very serious. I really like this girl, and I overheard her tell my friends fiancee one night that she can see herself marrying me and hopes I propose to her within two years. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for a year. Constant rubbing and petting, an overly desperate needy animal. I clean them up, he doesnt have to even be bothered with it. He MUST put the relationship over the bulldog. If he wants the dog gone, then respect his wishes as this decision was made without his input. So I talked to her about this and it ended up becoming a giant arguement. the little dog weighed about two and a half pounds and was covered in ticks had a dislocated back leg and had been being hit and swung around by the legs punished for no reason being left without food or water. The mistake that people make is treating animals like a child. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. I didnt have much issue with his dog prior to moving in either, but then once he moved in with me, the dog became super needy and dependent and took up ALL my bfs attention. Amen! He has arthritis really bad where you can see he is in discomfort and even when he drinks or eats, he cant stand up perfectly straight. I picked them up. Its becoming a problem I really hate this dog :-(. You dont need to do anything, she knows from the beginning your passion for your dog. I tell her if she does not do so I will be taking the pet the the humane society to be taken care of properly. There are no kill shelters, or maybe you can post pictures of the dog on social media and give him away to a loving home that will make the appropriate time to work on training him. I cant live like that. At night he locks him downstairs because his nails are too loud on the hardwood floor. Now, you cant leave the dog home alone for any longer than ten minuteshe destroys the carpet ripping and clawinghe craps in the house BC the grass is too long for himand oh dear god when theres snow?? He just flat out hates them. Im thinking about giving him away just because I want him to get treated better than this.. Is this wrong to give up my loved dog for her? Firstly, they drool so seeing them drool around the kitchen table was gross (she called it cute, not cute!). I HATE the way he treats my poor dog. Things are getting bad. 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